中国妈妈亲历孩子英国“中考”，校长来信劝家长不要“鸡娃”
While her elder son sat GCSEs, Dr Xiaoyun Peng's daughter's school sent parents a letter about resilience. It referenced the government and NHS push on adolescent mental health, then, with unusual candour, cited King's College London research finding that grit accounts for under 1% of the variation in exam results; motivation, home and school environment together add about 4%; intelligence accounts for close to 40%. The head neither dismissed resilience nor sold it as a formula. Peng contrasts this evidence-based restraint with the inspirational register familiar to Chinese parents, and describes her son's half-term during the exam period: rowing in the morning, practice and a walk in the afternoon, no revision classes and no extra work. She argues that Britain's capacity to resist escalation is structural rather than a matter of relaxed teachers.
这个暑假，你是否正在与手机抢你的孩子？被手机重构的童年，长大会发生什么
Chinese parents fill the summer with camps on the assumption that a busy child is not a phone-addicted child. Dr Xiaoyun Peng reports what she saw at the airport: an entire touring group of children heads-down on games, with no conversation and no reading. She reads Jonathan Haidt's The Anxious Generation against her own family, one son who grew up with violin, craft and neighbourhood play and did not become phone-dependent, and one daughter twelve years younger growing up in a saturated environment. She sets out Haidt's data on rising self-harm and suicide rates and his account of social media's comparison culture, then argues that Chinese exam pressure makes the problem worse: phone time becomes the only unsupervised time a child has. Her conclusion reframes parental ambition around reaching adulthood without an anxiety disorder.