你行？你上！琴童不快乐，是因为家长只学了郎爸的狠，却学不会他的幽默

Written in 2019 and reissued when a film revived the argument that Lang Lang was forced into greatness, this essay makes the case that music parents systematically misread the example. Lang Lang's father did lose his temper, but he also tolerated months in which his son refused to practise, waiting for the boy's own hands to itch, and he possessed a comedian's verbal wit that explains why Lang Lang differs from players drilled into dullness. Dr Xiaoyun Peng, a self-described outsider parent whose son took up the violin at five, argues that instrumental learning is not a life skill like driving: by one industry count fewer than 10% of Chinese children who pass grade ten ever play again. Happy practice is a demanding system to run, which is precisely why coercion spreads.