在AI时代，如何养出更像“人”的孩子？支撑我不焦虑的育儿“三大件”——音乐、哲学与自然
Dr Xiaoyun Peng sets out the three things she has chosen to invest in as a parent, on the view that what makes children resilient is not learning more but having been deeply nourished. Music gives feeling a form to return to, and in London is inexpensive to pursue: concerts every week, and an industry with real posts, budgets and policy behind it rather than a decorative extra. Philosophy — her third degree — is not an advanced subject but a daily instrument, one that lets a couple hold a disagreement without feeling threatened and keeps anxiety from being mistaken for fate. Nature is what her body forced on her after years at a desk, and what the family's Walking Socrates outdoor philosophy programme was built around. Her warning about AI is not that it will do more, but that people will forget what human pace and scale feel like.
你行？你上！琴童不快乐，是因为家长只学了郎爸的狠，却学不会他的幽默
Written in 2019 and reissued when a film revived the argument that Lang Lang was forced into greatness, this essay makes the case that music parents systematically misread the example. Lang Lang's father did lose his temper, but he also tolerated months in which his son refused to practise, waiting for the boy's own hands to itch, and he possessed a comedian's verbal wit that explains why Lang Lang differs from players drilled into dullness. Dr Xiaoyun Peng, a self-described outsider parent whose son took up the violin at five, argues that instrumental learning is not a life skill like driving: by one industry count fewer than 10% of Chinese children who pass grade ten ever play again. Happy practice is a demanding system to run, which is precisely why coercion spreads.
这个暑假，你是否正在与手机抢你的孩子？被手机重构的童年，长大会发生什么
Chinese parents fill the summer with camps on the assumption that a busy child is not a phone-addicted child. Dr Xiaoyun Peng reports what she saw at the airport: an entire touring group of children heads-down on games, with no conversation and no reading. She reads Jonathan Haidt's The Anxious Generation against her own family, one son who grew up with violin, craft and neighbourhood play and did not become phone-dependent, and one daughter twelve years younger growing up in a saturated environment. She sets out Haidt's data on rising self-harm and suicide rates and his account of social media's comparison culture, then argues that Chinese exam pressure makes the problem worse: phone time becomes the only unsupervised time a child has. Her conclusion reframes parental ambition around reaching adulthood without an anxiety disorder.